What to wear to a funeral and what to avoid in 2024

Asking others what they should wear at a funeral can feel inappropriate. It’s not a fashion show, after all. However, for those attending, it’s essential to show respect—and part of doing so requires being dressed in suitable clothing.

Funeral attire for men may be seen as a touchy subject, but it shouldn’t be. It’s totally normal to want to be correctly dressed for the occasion, and knowing exactly what that looks like can be difficult to figure out. To help with this sartorial conundrum, I’ve pulled together the key pieces every guy should consider. Continue reading to learn what men should wear to a memorial.

Takeaway:

If you’ve found yourself googling ‘what should men wear to a funeral,’ you’re not alone. The same question has been asked to me many times. You have to wear it? Should I wear a dress and tie? The truth is that a lot of it depends on the deceased person and the wishes expressed by the family.

You can always count on a few essentials. In this guide, I’ll share with you these must-have pieces, plus highlight the garments to avoid and other important things to consider.

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Option 1 : Black Suit

The black suit is the only item I would include on this list. It is stylish, versatile and smart. You can also choose other types of suits, such as dark navy and charcoal. But black is the most popular color.

Not only ideal for funerals, the men’s suit is great for dinner parties, job interviews, and the nine-to-five. For instance, a slim-fit suit from Hawes & Curtis will ensure you cut an elegant figure—especially when you team it with a crisp white shirt, black tie, and black shoes. If you’re looking for something a bit more relaxed, you can layer the suit with a fine-knit sweater or a roll neck. This will also keep you warm throughout winter. Whatever you choose, don’t forget to finish your look with a luxury timepiece.

Option 2: White Shirt

Ask me to write down a list of all the occasions the white shirt isn’t suitable for, and you’d probably be staring at a blank sheet of paper. The timeless staple is essential for every life event, from important meetings to funerals and weddings.

Like a good pair of shoes, or a newly-cut trim on a dress shirt, the white dress shirts have the ability to bring an outfit together. The fine twill version from Hawes & Curtis will pair perfectly with some black slacks and smart shoes. A plain black tie is optional, but don’t forget to make sure your shirt is pressed. I would recommend a single-cuff style, as double-cuff styles suit weddings and more formal occasions better.

Dark Knitwear

Paying your respects is paramount, but don’t forget to look after yourself. Investing in some dark knitwear gives you an excellent layering option when the weather isn’t being so kind. It’s better to choose a fine knit than a chunky cord, and the color should be black or gray. Avoid patterns and heavy branding. Also, pay attention to fit. It should be close to your body. You can choose from half zips, turtlenecks, or V-necks. But my favorite is the classic crew.

Asket offers a variety of styles that are a must-have, such as a black sweater. It’s made from a mid-weight merino wool that’s breathable enough for warm days yet perfect for wearing over a button-down shirt when it’s cold. When it comes to the weekend or heading to the office, it’ll look just as good with suits, khakis, and jeans.

Option 4: Tailored Pants

Tailored pants are an essential addition to any guy’s wardrobe. If you don’t already own a pair, now’s the time to make your move. These are great for when you’re wondering what to wear at a funeral. You can pair them with a formal t-shirt and shoes, or dress it down a bit with a sweater.

Finding the perfect pair can be difficult, but I have found Reiss never lets you down. Their black chino pants are slightly tapered to flatter your figure. They will be the go-to trousers for many years. I particularly like the cotton-elastane blend—it really ups the ante in the comfort department.

Option 5: Overcoat

One thing we can’t control in life is the weather. But if we could, I bet we’d all wish for plenty of sunshine on the day of a funeral. Unfortunately, we’re sometimes faced with the kind of wind and rain that matches the downcast mood. When such elements arrive, you’ll want to have a stylish overcoat to hand.

Maison Margiela’s overcoat is my top pick. It’s made from a warm wool-blend fabric and comes in a dark navy that almost looks black (so it’s suitable for the day of the funeral and beyond). Wear it over a suit or turtleneck sweater. Leave it unfastened if it’s not too chilly, but don’t be afraid to button that baby up when the temperature drops.

Option 6 – Black Shoes

You can tell a great deal about a person by his shoes, as the old saying goes. You could as well be on the phone during the funeral readings if you arrive at a funeral wearing a pair of worn-out sneakers or brogues. It’s not that bad, but you should still be respectful when choosing your footwear.

The best option for me is a pair of black cap-toe Oxfords, polished to perfection. You can wear them with either a suit, or a shirt-and-tie. They will add an elegant touch to your look. Myrqvist have a great pair—made from full grain leather with Goodyear-welted soles, they’re as durable as they are stylish.

What to Avoid When Dressing for a Funeral: Men’s Attire

1. Sneakers 

I get it, your new sneakers are awesome, and you can’t wait to show them off. But hold your horses partner; there’s a time and place for everything. It’s not the best place to show off your expensive footwear. If the deceased wasn’t a sneakerhead then keep it elegant and wear formal shoes.

If dress shoes don’t quite fit your budget, you could try some low-profile black sneakers. I won’t tell you if you don’t… My favorite is the Low 1 from Oliver Cabell. Squint and you’d think they were a pair of leather Oxfords, but they’re actually an excellent smart-casual option that you can dress up or down. You can wear them on off-duty with skinny jeans and fine knit jumpers.

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2. T-shirts

The clothing worn by guests at funerals is a reflection of the somber nature of this occasion. Keep your clothing simple, subdued, and smart to show respect for those who have suffered the loss of a loved one. This means that T-shirts, particularly those with bold graphics and a baggy cut, are out.

A plain black tee could definitely be suitable, but make sure it’s something fitted like a silk-cotton tee from Luca Faloni. Try pairing it with a black tailored suit and Derby shoes to make the look even more sophisticated. When you’re not putting together funeral attire for men, you can use it as a great base layer for everyday outfits.

3. Jeans 

Unless you’re asked to do otherwise, you should always dress smartly when attending a funeral. In general, jeans are considered inappropriate for bottom half. A dark pair with a slim fit may be acceptable, but formal slacks would be the best choice. A baggy, ripped and embellished pair of denim will raise a red flag.

Black denim jeans are the perfect way to avoid standing out (and annoying your aunt). Adriano Goldschmied. They are so easy to wear and have a tapered cut that they almost look like slacks. Once you’ve paid your respects, you can wear them at the weekend with everything from flannel shirts to hoodies and long-sleeved tees.

4. Flip-flops

Apart from the distracting and rather annoying slapping noise they’ll make as you arrive, nobody wants to see your bare feet at a funeral. Flip-flops are second to rollerblades in terms of bad footwear. Keep your shoes smart unless you’re having a funeral on the beach.

5. Scruffy Items 

In certain situations, being a little scruffy can be acceptable. You can be scruffy while chilling at home, or going to the gym. Even some designer fashion can be described in this way. Funerals are an exception. You will need to put in a little more effort.

It’s important your clothes are clean, pressed, and free of any pulls or rips. You should tuck your shirts in, shine your shoes, as well as make sure that your tie is the proper length. (The tip of the bow tie should sit on your belt buckle, or waistband).

6. Dress Appropriate

Without sounding like a nagging mother, I must tell you once more: when it comes to figuring out what to wear to a funeral, it’s important to be respectful. How should this look? Simple, timeless items that are safe from being deemed inappropriate. Remember your grandparents. If they would approve, you’re probably on the right track.

This doesn’t mean you have to completely drain your outfit of any personality. However, you should remember that you’re there to mourn and celebrate the life of someone who has passed, not win the award for best dressed. Avoid revealing clothing, big logos, and anything that screams ‘attention.’ Your color palette should be monochrome unless you’re asked to dress brightly.

Things to Consider When Choosing What to Wear at a Funeral

Date of Year 

The time of the year will influence the clothing you choose, just as it does with any other outfit. The summer months will require lighter fabrics and fewer layers. Winter months, however, may call for additional accessories like scarves or gloves. Dress for the weather but remain respectful.

The Family 

While there may be some general guidelines for what to wear, each ceremony is unique. Some families will ask their guests to wear black as a sign of respect. Others may want you to disregard traditional etiquette, and wear something bright. Before choosing your outfit, make sure you’re aware of the rules that have been set. After all, the wishes of the deceased’s family are what’s most important.

What to avoid 

Although the rules for what to wear at a memorial can be flexible, you should still avoid certain things if you want to look appropriately dressed. Jeans, graphic t-shirts, baseball hats, flip-flops and sports tops are all items that you should avoid wearing.